Amateur BDSM: 6 Tips to Enjoy Bondage Sex

Even though some people still think that captivating their partner is very easy, a bondage session needs a more or less long and good preparation. This sometimes includes a visit to a bondage seminar, in which the participants of experienced bondage artists in the art of the right and accident-free! Shackles are taught.

If you have acquired basic knowledge, then you can start. But right before a session there is also a lot to consider and you should know clearly what is pegging. Take your time and let it take a rest. Disturbances are very unpleasant – and sometimes embarrassing!

Create a pleasant atmosphere and see that the room is not too cold. After all, the session lasts more than five minutes and especially if the partner is tied up naked, he can freeze quickly.

Put your bondage utensils ready and check them again for their suitability. For the seriousness federation do not forget scissors / key! If you work in the dark, you should also prepare a flashlight for emergencies. This is also very useful in the event of a power failure.

Agreed a codeword or – if the partner is gagged – a code character with each other and makes sure that the tied up, the code can also execute in the bondage visible! Finger snapping is rather impractical with thumb clamps, for example.

And not only the codeword, also basic expectations and limits in the game should be discussed in advance. So you avoid that from the desire very quickly frustration or worse. Sometimes like to forget the following: Stay away from alcohol and drugs! Both play partners should be sober and clear in mind. Drugs and alcohol can limit the ability to react, make people insensitive and disturb the perception – not only do they endanger the acting person, they also bring about artistic and emotional enjoyment.

Erotic Percussion Instruments: The Beat Paddle

Under paddle, also known as the English term paddle, percussion instruments are understood with a very wide impacting surface. They are usually made of either leather or wood and the material more or less flexible.

Application of the impact paddle

Due to the large surface, the power of the blow is distributed quite widely and is therefore less intense than, for example, a device that leaves a biting pain through its narrow shape. For this reason, impact paddles are often used to warm up the body surface before whip or cane is used. It is slammed only with moderate force, so that the circulation of the hit area increases. The use of snappier percussion instruments is subsequently much more pleasant. But even with the paddle you cannot handle without hesitation. If it is overheated too often, the tissue and surrounding nerves can be damaged temporarily or even permanently. The region is then hardened and numb. Therefore one speaks also of so-called “Leather butt”.

However, if you take care that your partner does not regularly carry evil bruises from the impact paddle, you can enjoy the pain with relish and without regret. The orgasm control is a sexual variety in which the orgasm is delayed either greatly or where it comes to a very quick satisfaction because unlike women, men can often only come to orgasm once and then need a break. A delay leads to a more intense orgasm.

In principle, one can perform the orgasm control in men and women. It is possible to control, delay, refuse or ruin the orgasm. Special sexual pleasure arises here, when the so-called tease and Denial is applied, whereby it always comes to an increase in pleasure, but the orgasm is not possible.

This is how orgasm control works in men

Mostly, orgasm control works only when the controlled partner is either very disciplined or when he is tied up so that he can no longer satisfy himself if the controlled person reaches the point shortly before the orgasm, usually only a few movements are enough by hand for example on the penis to reach orgasm. Shackles are a practical way to control orgasm.

Recognizing orgasm: In men, you recognize it by the fact that the penis begins to twitch briefly several times. That’s the sign that ejaculation starts right away. To recognize this, you can tightly enclose the penis with your complete hand and notice the twitching. When the time comes, simply stop further stimulation. Alternatively, you can see the ejaculation by the way, by pressing with your forefinger on the dam. This is the area between the scrotum and anus, where the prostate is located. If this area begins to twitch, that is a sign that the orgasm starts right away. Even better is the approaching orgasm when you insert two anal fingers and position them directly on the prostate. If the prostate twitches here, the orgasm begins.

Delaying orgasm: When the point is reached that the man comes to orgasm immediately, simply enclose the glands with your thumb and forefinger and press. As a result, the arousal decreases and the orgasm stop. You do this several times, arouse your partner until just before the climax and then do not let him come. Gladly the break between the masturbation is connected with pleasure pains, which indeed stimulate the controlled, but do not let him come to orgasm.

Ruining Orgasm: This is one of the nastiest forms of orgasm control is the ruining of orgasm. In this case, the controlled is so excited that he reaches the point-of-no-return, so that he will definitely come to orgasm. From this point, the orgasm is unstoppable. If the man is close to his orgasm, it can be ruined so that he no longer satisfies him. For this, the finger must be pressed with high pressure against the dam. As a result, the urethra closes and the seed cannot splash outward. Alternatively, two fingers may be inserted anally and the urethra pressed with the fingers near the prostate. The resulting effect is identical.

Orgasm refuse: Even meaner is to refuse the orgasm completely. So the orgasm is constantly delayed, but ultimately there is no ejaculation. Instead, the penis is locked in a chastity cage, so that masturbation is not possible.

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