Beginners’ Guide to Bondage Sex

Bondage is not equal to bondage. The artful bondage has a variety of intentions and there are countless bondage types as well as very different techniques and bondage positions. Torture Bondage, Ornament Bondage, Hogtie, and Spread Eagle and more – sexologists explain the most important bondage positions and how to prepare for anal sex.


The bottom is on the belly, wrists and ankles are tied behind the back. The bound wrists and ankles are also joined together. Slow down and let the connection between hand and foot last longer, so as not to risk any back damage.


When frogtie the legs to the ankles are tied to the thigh, whereby a frog position is obtained. The wrists in turn are fixed on the outside of the leg restraints of each side or behind the back.

Spread Eagle

In this bondage position, the bottom is attached to the back or abdomen, all fours at four separate points. The finished Spread Eagle looks like a big X from the top. BDSM pros practice the Spread Eagle while standing, for example at a St. Andrew’s cross.


The wrists are tied behind the back and pulled up with a rope. The rope is attached to the ceiling. The feet stay on the ground. This position is only for bondage pros and should only be done under guidance or in a professional studio. Shoulder injuries threaten.


The arms are connected on the back. The rope is tied around the upper body (above and below the chest) around the back. People with shoulder problems should rather delete this position from their repertoire. Not everyone is so agile to stay in this attitude!

Bondage species

To bind each other and thus a clear power gap between bondage artist (“Rigger”) and the submissive partner (“Bunny”) cause, is a popular erotic game. But what do the shackles actually do and what do they serve? Here you can distinguish three main groups:

When Zweck bondage it is simply a matter of making motion inability , it is also called Nutzsbondage . Knowledge of special knotting techniques and special bondage tools are unnecessary. The goal is to fix the sub quickly and appropriately.

Torture bondage, on the other hand, has the intention of forcing the bottom into an uncomfortable or painful situation as possible – e.g. as a punishment in the context of a punishment game. Incidentally, sexual intercourse does not necessarily have to be part of a bondage session, but sex can happen.

Especially nice to look at – which in this case is the purpose – is the so-called Zierbondage. Here aesthetic aspects are in the foreground. Above all, the bondage should look good and only secondarily limit the bottom. Often ornamental bondage is worn to emphasize certain body parts or as a “costume” at fetish parties.

In addition, the artful Japan Bondage (Shibari or Kinbaku called) to distinguish us from the usual bondage. This is a captive art from Japan. The aim is to connect the body and the ropes to an aesthetic and harmonious unity. A power gap between active and passive part is not always available, so you can face the fetters as equal accomplices.

Bondage techniques

Bondage distinguishes between basic techniques. In addition to the tying of arms and legs, there is the spreading apart (e.g. with a spreader bar) and the tying of objects such as on the bedpost or the chair. Again, caution is advised as the joints can be affected.

A popular technique is winding bondage. Here, individual body parts or even the whole body are wrapped. With ropes creates a great pattern, but it is also used for cling film – but attention: A heat accumulation under the airtight material can be dangerous. Real BDSM poker pros practice among other suspension bondage, so the hanging of the body. However, this requires detailed knowledge of human anatomy, experience and special devices (hooks in the ceiling, beams, etc. Do not try this at home!

The bondage beginner box

The little bondage boxes by Amorelie offers everything you need for the beginning: a blindfold, a high quality bondage rope and a nice leather whip. The perfect launch package for your entry into the exciting and wicked world of bondage!

Rope set by kink

The beautiful set Trap me, consisting of 2 bondage ropes in black and red, by kink promises naughty and versatile fun. Whether bondage newbie or already experienced, the rugged but skin-friendly ropes provide countless opportunities for fetters.

Shackles and handcuffs

Handcuffs add variety to your love life. Synthetic leather hand and ankle cuffs are particularly suitable for first bondage games because the material does not cut into the skin. Once you are tied up, the exciting adventure of domination and submission can begin.

BDSM practice ideal for beginners

If you have always been a bit adventurous in the bedroom or curious about different preferences, maybe I have the ideal BDSM practice for you. This sex practice is commonly referred to as Tease & Denial and is considered a collective term for sexual games that increase the excitement and intensify, but without reaching an orgasm.

What is Edging & Blue Balls?

The partner again and again to stimulate until it is close to orgasm and then stop is often referred to as edging. In men, such a scenario often results in the withdrawal of the so-called pleasure drop, which is then called an edge. Through this targeted stimulation and subsequent refusal, it is also common in men to an increased blood supply to the penis and testes. This can lead to a bluish discoloration of the testicles – so-called blue balls. At the same time, the increase in pressure can cause pain.

How long this technique is performed and how often the orgasms are denied differs from couple to couple and is not subject to any requirements. Sexual practice is often associated with the area of ??BDSM, especially female dominance, and is part of orgasm denial, chastity, or penis and testicle torture. This is often about the feeling of sexual frustration, because you cannot reach orgasm, which breaks down the sexual tension. In general, this BDSM practice is about power and powerlessness. While the active partner is aroused, stimulated and controlled, the passive partner is at the mercy of the active one.

BDSM practice ideal for beginners

Tease & Denial is ideal for beginners because the intensity and length can be adjusted individually. So you can just feel your way slowly and try out, whether such a technique you like or not.

Continue Reading